Comments on: PING! The Dating Queue http://www.freedomreeves.com/2009/09/ping-the-dating-queue/ The intersection between media, social justice and meaning Thu, 15 Apr 2010 07:09:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Dating and Love 2010 http://www.freedomreeves.com/2009/09/ping-the-dating-queue/comment-page-1/#comment-841 Dating and Love 2010 Mon, 01 Feb 2010 12:47:36 +0000 http://www.freedomreeves.com/?p=527#comment-841 <strong>Dating and Love 2010...</strong> One...... Dating and Love 2010…

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]]> By: Freedom Reeves » An update to “The Dating Queue”: Hoarders http://www.freedomreeves.com/2009/09/ping-the-dating-queue/comment-page-1/#comment-838 Freedom Reeves » An update to “The Dating Queue”: Hoarders Wed, 27 Jan 2010 12:56:30 +0000 http://www.freedomreeves.com/?p=527#comment-838 [...] of the most popular posts I have written on Freedomreeves.com was “PING: The Dating Queue.” It seems that people were intrigued with the idea that there is a process by which people [...] [...] of the most popular posts I have written on Freedomreeves.com was “PING: The Dating Queue.” It seems that people were intrigued with the idea that there is a process by which people [...]

]]> By: soaringbutterfly http://www.freedomreeves.com/2009/09/ping-the-dating-queue/comment-page-1/#comment-836 soaringbutterfly Sat, 02 Jan 2010 17:51:00 +0000 http://www.freedomreeves.com/?p=527#comment-836 as always...very interesting. as always…very interesting.

]]> By: Tricie http://www.freedomreeves.com/2009/09/ping-the-dating-queue/comment-page-1/#comment-436 Tricie Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:14:36 +0000 http://www.freedomreeves.com/?p=527#comment-436 the only thing that makes me uncomfortable with this is that someone else is telling me what it means to do what i do (in addition to millions of other people) and im not sure anyONE can do that. it is true that by mere observation we can identify enormous patterns in human behavior, but what scares me is this: that if everyone reads this, we'll all be like "oh yeh!! that's so true!" (and i did, lol) and instead of resisting the paradigm, and instead of throughtfully interrogating it (despite whether we'll end up reaching the same conclusion), we'll just accept it. take it for granted and almost call the observations into existence. you know what i mean? it happens all of the time. that's how standards of beauty have become what they are. that's how some people "learned" good hip hop music, or what "fresh" sneakers are supposed to look like, how oprah became famous etc etc etc. instead of, get this... people being thoughtful about what it is that they do. like whatever happened to "i" statements. "i" text because im at work during the day and i can't talk. by the time i get off of work, "i" usually call my parents first, and then my cousin, and then my bff. "i" text some people because they get on my goshd*rn nerves!!! and getting caught in a too-long conversation always kills a little part of my soul. "i" text because it's easier and i don't like to bother people. despite that sometimes i actually do want to see them or talk to them over the phone. "i" text for a lot of reasons... and i am complicated - not in the drama drama way, but in the "i have an essence, sure, but very few days know the same thoughts" way. am i alone? anyway, with that said. i certainly think there is a lot of truth to these observations. and it makes me sad. because i am very old fashioned and i have found myself settling for these new forms of communication because that's what people is doin these days... twitter has slowly taken over my life. i haven't been on today but for a moment, but i plan to in 5, 4, 3, 2,... as i like to say, #wompwomp... the only thing that makes me uncomfortable with this is that someone else is telling me what it means to do what i do (in addition to millions of other people) and im not sure anyONE can do that. it is true that by mere observation we can identify enormous patterns in human behavior, but what scares me is this: that if everyone reads this, we’ll all be like “oh yeh!! that’s so true!” (and i did, lol) and instead of resisting the paradigm, and instead of throughtfully interrogating it (despite whether we’ll end up reaching the same conclusion), we’ll just accept it. take it for granted and almost call the observations into existence. you know what i mean?

it happens all of the time. that’s how standards of beauty have become what they are. that’s how some people “learned” good hip hop music, or what “fresh” sneakers are supposed to look like, how oprah became famous etc etc etc. instead of, get this… people being thoughtful about what it is that they do. like whatever happened to “i” statements. “i” text because im at work during the day and i can’t talk. by the time i get off of work, “i” usually call my parents first, and then my cousin, and then my bff. “i” text some people because they get on my goshd*rn nerves!!! and getting caught in a too-long conversation always kills a little part of my soul. “i” text because it’s easier and i don’t like to bother people. despite that sometimes i actually do want to see them or talk to them over the phone. “i” text for a lot of reasons… and i am complicated – not in the drama drama way, but in the “i have an essence, sure, but very few days know the same thoughts” way. am i alone?

anyway, with that said. i certainly think there is a lot of truth to these observations. and it makes me sad. because i am very old fashioned and i have found myself settling for these new forms of communication because that’s what people is doin these days… twitter has slowly taken over my life. i haven’t been on today but for a moment, but i plan to in 5, 4, 3, 2,…

as i like to say, #wompwomp…

]]> By: Rashid http://www.freedomreeves.com/2009/09/ping-the-dating-queue/comment-page-1/#comment-238 Rashid Fri, 09 Oct 2009 06:33:22 +0000 http://www.freedomreeves.com/?p=527#comment-238 I glanced at this on FB but never got a chance to read it. You just made me think about Q and I's friendship tiering system, so I wrote about it, lol. I glanced at this on FB but never got a chance to read it. You just made me think about Q and I’s friendship tiering system, so I wrote about it, lol.

]]> By: Friendship Tiers http://www.freedomreeves.com/2009/09/ping-the-dating-queue/comment-page-1/#comment-237 Friendship Tiers Fri, 09 Oct 2009 06:32:06 +0000 http://www.freedomreeves.com/?p=527#comment-237 [...] my friend Chakka wrote an interesting post about the “Dating Queue” (Thats such a strange word to spell). In her entry she proposed the idea of technology [...] [...] my friend Chakka wrote an interesting post about the “Dating Queue” (Thats such a strange word to spell). In her entry she proposed the idea of technology [...]

]]> By: ihsanamin http://www.freedomreeves.com/2009/09/ping-the-dating-queue/comment-page-1/#comment-145 ihsanamin Tue, 01 Sep 2009 16:52:32 +0000 http://www.freedomreeves.com/?p=527#comment-145 Interesting take on things... I look at text messaging as a way to just send short messages. I don't think they're good for any kind of extended conversation. But they can serve as the little "Thank you!" or "I love you!" note. Or serving the same purpose as pagers back in the day, scheduling quick booty calls! j/k Just seems like the normal progression of integrating technology into our lives. Impersonal? Yeah... Little bit. I just wouldn't automatically flag anyone doing it as being less inclined to value the relationship. ... But as far as the dating queue thing... That's lame, but it's the reality. People are quite self-absorbed these days, so them having others/potential SO options set up in an order of importance isn't too shocking to me. ... Maybe the whole impersonal techy stuff DOES hamper how people relate to each other, but I think that it would happen just as easily in another manner without it. I'm interested in seeing what others think about this... Interesting take on things…

I look at text messaging as a way to just send short messages.
I don’t think they’re good for any kind of extended conversation.
But they can serve as the little “Thank you!” or “I love you!” note.
Or serving the same purpose as pagers back in the day, scheduling quick booty calls! j/k

Just seems like the normal progression of integrating technology into our lives.
Impersonal? Yeah… Little bit.
I just wouldn’t automatically flag anyone doing it as being less inclined to value the relationship.

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But as far as the dating queue thing… That’s lame, but it’s the reality.

People are quite self-absorbed these days, so them having others/potential SO options set up in an order of importance isn’t too shocking to me.

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Maybe the whole impersonal techy stuff DOES hamper how people relate to each other, but I think that it would happen just as easily in another manner without it.

I’m interested in seeing what others think about this…

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